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Have you ever seen the show, "What Not to Wear"? Stacey and Clinton, the fashion experts, choose a candidate to be on the show who is struggling to dress fashionably. They take all of the woman's clothes and throw away everything they deem inappropriate. Then, Stacey and Clinton give the woman rules to follow when buying clothes, along with $5,000 to purchase a whole new wardrobe. Every episode of "What Not to Wear" that I have seen, I've noticed a common theme among the women--they try to hide their femininity and beauty behind clothes, make-up, and hair styles that either oversexualize their bodies or behind appearances that do not draw attention to their unique womanhood whatsoever. This trend to waver in self-confidence and constantly struggle with self-image is common in society. Women compare themselves to others, wondering if they are pretty enough, funny enough, kind enough, sensitive enough, or attractive enough to grab a man's attention. We struggle with questioning if we are beautiful. We want to know if others are curious about us or want to know us on a deeper level. We want to be captivating. Honestly, I don't think there's a woman on earth who hasn't doubted her beauty at one point or another.

The topic of beauty has been on my mind a lot lately. Like many other women, I struggle with being comfortable in my skin and being confident in the woman God has made me to be. I certainly don't have the answers about how to overcome the self-doubt I experience. However, I am becoming more confident in the fact that I am the daughter of a King. He is enthralled with my beauty. I am precious and gorgeous in His sight. What could be better than that?? I must not get caught up in comparing myself to others.

Today, let me encourage you, women, that God made you to reflect His glory. You are unique. There's no one like you. My dear friends, you are beautiful!


  1. Emily- I think you are beautiful. I have a lot of respect for how you, a very young girl, write about your struggles on your blog. Life isn't easy for anybody, but it's hard to not think that folks with CF have a bit rougher deal than most. Take good care of yourself - I am rooting for you! -An anonymous reader from NJ

  2. Thank you! I so appreciate reading your encouragement. :) Have a great evening!


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